When the couple had an argument, which was becoming more often, he used the "D" word. He talked of walking away from the marriage. Divorce was his threat to get his way in most arguments. At times it seemed to work, but not as well as he thought. It increased her insecurity in the relationship and made her feel less love from him. The arguments with the "D" word created unpleasant memories that increasingly robbed the marriage of intimacy. His tactic was really not working. Marriage is not built on threats. A "divorce-proof" marriage is built on real love. Until we understand and experience real love, we cannot "divorce-proof" a marriage.
Real love is unselfish. Let's face it, many if not most arguments are built on selfishness. Real love is unselfish. "Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged," 1 Corinthians 13:5-6, NLT. Marriage is not for people who still act like children. It is designed for mature adults. Selfishness is a friend of divorce. They often work together to destroy marriage.
Real love is commitment. Marriage is about a man and woman making a life-time commitment. It is a commitment made with vows to each other. It is a commitment made before God as the covenant witness. The words "to have and to hold from this day forward til death do us part" is a serious commitment. This is the person you want to share your life with until death parts you. Such a commitment from a man for his wife frees her to give herself to him intimately without reservation.
Real love is more than romance. While romance is important for any marriage, real love is more than romance. Read the Song of Solomon in the Old Testament. Read it in a modern translation. It is intimately romantic leading to marriage. However, real love includes much more. "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance," 1 Corinthians 13:7, NLT.
Real love comes from God. The Bible makes it clear, "God is love," 1 John 4:8, 16. To experience real love in marriage, we must first experience real love from God. Pray to be filled with real love based on the apostle Paul's prayer in Ephesians 3:17-19. This love comes to our hearts through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5). The real love from God can divorce-proof any marriage. It's only a prayer away.
Real love is unselfish. Let's face it, many if not most arguments are built on selfishness. Real love is unselfish. "Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged," 1 Corinthians 13:5-6, NLT. Marriage is not for people who still act like children. It is designed for mature adults. Selfishness is a friend of divorce. They often work together to destroy marriage.
Real love is commitment. Marriage is about a man and woman making a life-time commitment. It is a commitment made with vows to each other. It is a commitment made before God as the covenant witness. The words "to have and to hold from this day forward til death do us part" is a serious commitment. This is the person you want to share your life with until death parts you. Such a commitment from a man for his wife frees her to give herself to him intimately without reservation.
Real love is more than romance. While romance is important for any marriage, real love is more than romance. Read the Song of Solomon in the Old Testament. Read it in a modern translation. It is intimately romantic leading to marriage. However, real love includes much more. "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance," 1 Corinthians 13:7, NLT.
Real love comes from God. The Bible makes it clear, "God is love," 1 John 4:8, 16. To experience real love in marriage, we must first experience real love from God. Pray to be filled with real love based on the apostle Paul's prayer in Ephesians 3:17-19. This love comes to our hearts through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5). The real love from God can divorce-proof any marriage. It's only a prayer away.
