The Heart of Marriage

When they were first married it was a loving, gentle relationship. They often held hands and took walks together. He always opened the door for her everywhere they went. She enjoyed being surprised at the unexpected places that he would take her on a date, not to mention the flowers he gave her even when it wasn't a special occasion. He held her as they watched the television together. They often looked each other in the eyes affectionately and expressed their love.

The months and years went by and somehow their marriage had changed. Now he seldom opened a door for her anywhere. They never held hands. He never held her as they watched television, as a matter of fact, they watched television in different rooms now. There was seldom eye to eye contact or sweet words of affection.

What happened to this marriage? It started out so well, and now everything had changed. You could say all marriages happen this way. I hope not. Marriage should be a growing relationship of love. While there are stages in a relationship, and the honeymoon stage does end, the love and affection should develop into a stronger bond. We need to identify the things that will take the heart out of a beautiful, loving relationship in marriage.

"Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words ... be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you" (Ephesians 4:31-32, NLT). Here we find the key to success in marriage. Kindness and forgiveness from a tender heart will make your marriage work.

Be kind to each other at all times. Love is kind. Admit when you have been unkind and ask for forgiveness. Love forgives. Remember how kind you were to each other in the early days of your relationship. Love comes only from a personal relationship with God. He can give you a tender heart. That's the heart of marriage.